I am an American citizen and My wife is Russian. We were married in Moscow 5 years ago. She immigrated to America. Our time together was not pleasant because she was never satisfied with anything. Even though I have a very good income, there was never enough money to satisfy her. Nothing was ever good enough. She was not affectionate and certainly not passionate in any way often refusing sexual relations with me. It is obvious that she married me for a green card, for money and for material goods.
Last October, I sent her back to home to St. Petersburg where she remains today. I had hoped that this would affect a change in her attitude but it has not. So, how do I get divorced from her in Russia? Do I have to appear in Russia? Does she have to agree to the divorce?
The only community property we have is our house in America. She took the money from our joint bank account ($20000) with her when she left. The equity in our house is about the same as the cash. So, I believe that I should get the house. She does not live here any more and it is best if she does not return. She now lives with her family in Saint Petersburg which is exactly where she was before our marriage.
We do not have children. We do not have a pre-nup agreement.
Questions for our consultation:
My wife is in Saint Petersburg & I am in New York. Do we file for divorce in Moscow? We were married in Moscow.
If she agrees to the divorce, it becomes an administrative process, right?
She won't agree because she wants a big cash settlement - above the $20000 she already took.
What happens if she does not respond?
The only community property we have is our house. Is it possible that the court would award that to me? There is about $40000 equity that all came from my earnings.
We were married only 5 years and 3 of them were terrible. About how much would court awarded monthly alimony be? For how long? She's lives with her mother - which is exactly where I found her 5 years ago.
What documents am I required to provide? I may not have our original marriage certificate but I certainly have a copy.
How quickly can you file for the divorce?
How long until it's over?
I assume that I have to appear in court - which is an expensive trip. It would be better to settle out of court (cash bonus, no alimony, I get the house).
I am afraid that if we go to court, my wife will start ranting & screaming charging me with all kinds of abuse & atrocities (that is her style & she's good at it). My fear is that I get arrested in Russia for charges my wife makes. Is that possible? I cannot count the times that she threatened to call the police or go to my office and start screaming or go to the neighbors & start screaming. This extortion technique was employed by her any time she ran out of money and demanded more. She should be in the mafia.